Welcome to our unaccompanied tours (UT) blog, Foggy Bottom Rambles! We can share information, programs, and resources quickly with you and since blogs are a two way street, we (and the other readers) can hear from you. What's in a name you say? This blog reflects how we (back here in DC, Foggy Bottom area) provide information (rambles) to you. Find websites and information, upcoming webinars, programs and events. FLO does not endorse organizations or companies linked-to in this blog, the views they express, or the products/services they offer. Let us know what you think: contribute to the blog or email us at FLOAskUT@state.gov.

Friday, August 10, 2012

Tips from the Field


Countdowns - Once dates were confirmed for the R&Rs, we created these. It helped to see how much longer we had to go. We did one vacation themed, holiday themed, and candy themed (pre-counted M&Ms in 2 jars with the kids names on it, they each got 1 a day until he came home)  

Skype calls - We scheduled 2 separate calls, one for the kids to talk with their dad (it happened usually in the morning before they headed to school) then he would call me in the afternoon and we'd have our time to discuss house stuff, the kids, etc. This has probably been the sanity saver for all of us as we still felt very connected. The kids have never had their dad gone for more than a quick trip for training or work (usually no more than 2 nights). 

Reading in person - To help me with the kids school work, he downloaded a book to his iPad for reading with the kids over the computer. They would share the reading with each reading a paragraph. He downloaded a book for each of the boys, so they had their own time with him. This really worked great as they felt that daddy was involved in their school work. 

As the mail wasn't reliable after the holidays (especially since my husband was not at the Embassy, but at an Annex) instead of sending things through the mail, we sent e-cards, and emails with pictures of things we wanted to send him. We also sent lots of pictures of places/things we saw/did. 

Because of events of this year that we wanted to attend together (a close friend's wedding, our 15th anniversary) we decided to do a long stretch from the 1st R&R to the 2nd. That was the most stressful for both of us as he left right after Christmas and didn't come home again until May. During that time thankfully it was basketball season and scouts was well underway. I had begun to volunteer more at the school, which was very helpful for keeping me out of the house and during the times when calls would not be coming. Plus volunteering is so flexible!  It was just hard to have to go such a long stretch, that we would not recommend it to others, unless absolutely unavoidable. Looking back it doesn't seem so bad now, but I remember during the time that I was thankful for volunteering, the kids busy schedules, and having friends around. Granted not many are familiar with the FS life here in small town PA, and sometimes, that was exactly what I needed. 
Thanks to Jennifer!  Excellent tips!  

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Around town...


Art & Bookfair News:
Donate Now, Shop in October!
Wondering what to do with some of the gifts or extra items purchased while posted overseas? Looking to lighten your load as you pack out? Consider donating items to the AAFSW Art & Book Fair 2012. In addition to art and books, other collectibles such as stamps and coins (old and new) are popular items.  

Donations are tax deductible and proceeds help support a number of Foreign Service youth programs, scholarships and other projects for the FS community. For shipping instructions, email bookroom@aafsw.org or call 202-223-5796.

The annual Art & Bookfair is a great place to do some early holiday shopping, too. If you’ll be in Washington October 12 -21, stop buy and pick out something special from all corners of the world!

The AAFSW Art & Book Fair 2012 will be held October 12 - 21 in the Harry S Truman Building (Main State).:
• October 12: 11-4 p.m. Art & BookFair open to building pass holders and their guests.
• October 13-14: 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. Open to the general public.
• October 15-19: 11 a.m. - 3 p.m. Open to building pass holders and their guests.
• October 20-21: 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. Open to the general public.

For more information about the annual bookfair, visit the AAFSW website at www.aafsw.org.

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Around town...

Got Kids?....
 Here are some events coming up from the Foreign Service Youth Foundation   http://www.fsyf.org

FSYF re-entry program-Kayaking on the Potomac-Saturday, August 25 from Thompson Boat Center, Washington D.C.

Visit to Peace Corp Headquarters, Shriver Hall, Wednesday August 22 10 am- 12 noon.

FSYF Annual Welcome Back Picinic-Sunday September 16 from 4pm Nottaway Park, Vienna

Future plans
September - visit Library of Congress
October - Ghost Walk in Alexandria
November - Candlelight Tour of Mt. Vernon
December - National Christmas Tree Lighting Ceremony

Contact fsyf@fsyf.org for further details.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Check this out....


Here is a link to a new blog from Jennifer S   http://365baddays.blogspot.com/
 And she was kind enough to share with us a little about her blog:  

I think when people find out that you are being left behind while your spouse is on an unaccompanied tour in a far away and dangerous place, they naturally want to make you feel better. This leads to all sorts of unhelpful advice and lots of reminders of how things could be worse. I fully realize that things could be worse, like that my children could be starving in the Sudan or that they didn’t have Skype during the Vietnam War. However, knowing those facts doesn’t make me feel any better. Some well-meaning but thoroughly unhelpful person suggested that I write a gratitude journal. But I am so not the gratitude journal type. Then I got the idea that if I could find someone who is having a worse day than me for ridiculous reasons and I could laugh about it, then that might make me feel better.

So that is the purpose of the blog—to make me laugh and to feel grateful for small, silly things. It’s had a few other benefits as well. My husband now knows a little better what I’m going through while he’s away. The kids look forward to reading it and give me completely useless advice, but it’s still a bonding experience for us. And several of my friends who are left-behind-spouses, say that it helps to know that someone else is going through the same things as they are.

If it helps anyone else, that would be gravy, but at the very least, it is helping me. And if you have any nominations for someone who is having a really bad day that we can laugh about, I’d love to hear about it.

If you know of a blog, a good website or would just like to share your thoughts with our readers please write us at FLOaskUT@state.gov 

Friday, July 20, 2012

Tips from the Field

New tip from Paul

1.                                     Lower expectations

.      Bring a sense of humor

.      Be very flexible
:) 

Thursday, July 19, 2012


The Family Liaison Office (FLO) will conduct an interactive "Orientation Session" by conference call on Wednesday, July 25, 9:00-10:00 a.m. Eastern Daylight Time.  This program is designed for all employees and family preparing for or serving on long-term TDY.  This service is presented jointly by FLO and MHN, a comprehensive mental and behavioral health services company.  Topics covered include: overview of existing FLO services, counseling options, explanation of MHN, specialized training, monthly newsletter, and navigating the new MHN website to find health and work/life articles, assessments, and resources.  Please direct questions or RSVPs to FLO's Unaccompanied Tours Support Officer at 202-647-1076 or 1-800-440-0397 or email FLOAskUT@state.gov.

Wednesday, July 18, 2012


Hello Everyone!!!

I am Margaret Bunton, the new Unaccompanied Tours (UT) Program Specialist.  While I am new to the FLO, I am not new to Unaccompanied Tours.  I have survived three Unaccompanied Tours,  and I am currently experiencing my fourth UT as we speak!  As a former Officer in the United States Army and the spouse of an Officer in the United States Air Force, I have experienced UTs from different perspectives.  I have left family and loved ones behind in order to serve my country…and I have been left behind.   I have also had the wonderful opportunity to share the UT experience with my spouse as a tandem.  Because I understand the importance of having a support network before, during, and after a UT,  I am here to serve and assist you in any way possible during your UT experience. 

I also would like to remind you that there will be a Youth Awards Ceremony on Friday that will honor all children who have experienced or are currently experiencing a UT.  Have a great week, and I look forward to seeing each of you on Friday!

Warm Regards,
Margaret 

Monday, July 16, 2012

Good article.......


Invaluable civilians on the warfront

By Ryan C. Crocker, Kabul

Invaluable civilians on the warfront
By Ryan C. Crocker, Published: July 5
KABUL
I do two things each week at our management meeting: Read aloud the names of colleagues, mostly military but occasionally civilian, who have given their lives in service of our country; and welcome those recently arrived to serve the State Department, the U.S. Agency for International Development and other agencies. These volunteers leave homes, family and sometimes careers to work 16-plus hours a day, six to seven days a week, living in shipping containers. All are aware of the threats we face at the embassy and the more frequent indiscriminate fire against field positions.
These are tough jobs, in a tough place, under even tougher conditions. One cannot underestimate our civilian volunteers’ contributions to achieving our goal of creating a peaceful, stable, self-sustaining Afghanistan that can no longer harbor terrorists who would attack the United States. Since I arrived last July, Afghan forces have begun to take the lead on security for about 75 percent of the population. Never before have so many Afghans had access to health care and education, both boys and girls.
In April, it was Afghan forces who repelled simultaneous attacks in four provinces and Kabul. In May, our countries’ presidents signed a Strategic Partnership Agreement with mutual commitments that ensure we will be allies well into the future.
While work remains, none of this would have been possible without the American men and women who volunteered to serve here. People like Paul Folmsbee, our senior officer in regional command east, and Karl Rios, head of the Provincial Reconstruction Team in Logar Province. Both work closely with local government, security, business, civil and religious leaders. On April 15, during a meeting with the provincial governor, Karl and Paul spent 12 hours under heavy fire. They sent me a stream of updates and at 2 a.m., still under fire, Paul was evacuated with a badly wounded Afghan soldier. Karl remained on site until dawn, when Afghan forces suppressed the last of the attackers. And once they got the all-clear, both returned to work.
This team is motivated by a desire to make a difference for others. A civilian officer in the east is helping facilitate a program to teach 200 madrassa high school students basic computer and Internet skills to better connect them to job opportunities and to the outside world. “When I touched the mouse for the first time and put my eyes on the monitor screen,” said one student, Fatima, “I felt that I was flying to the sky and seeing a new world of brightness, which gave my heart much happiness.”
While our civilian employees are considered targets, we have not simply hunkered down. Regional security officers and drivers risk their lives to support more than a hundred daily engagements, essential to diplomacy, between Americans and Afghans in Kabul and beyond. I was humbled by their work during the attacks against our embassy in September and April, when I joined them in the operations room.
Despite the danger, our civilian and military personnel, working with their Afghan counterparts, regularly travel “outside the wire,” helping Afghans refurbish homes, canals and irrigation systems left dormant or damaged by the insurgency. For International Women’s Day, civilian Jessica Brandt and her military counterpart, Lt. Col. Barbara Crawford, worked with female Afghan partners to stage an empowerment event for more than 400 women.
The U.S. commander, Gen. Marine John Allen, also recognizes the commitment of our civilians. “Many of the men and women of the State Department serve out in the field, riding in the same vehicles as our Marines and soldiers, living in very austere forward operating bases, exposed to the same hardships and the same dangers that our military personnel face. And yet they go unarmed,” he said. “I cannot praise them highly enough. Without them and this close relationship, we would not be able to accomplish all we have so far.”
I’d also like to thank the 859 Afghan staffers who risk their lives every day to work for the betterment of their country and ours. It takes a special kind of heroism for them to serve alongside us. Taj, for instance, has worked for the U.S. government for more than 20 years; he returned from Pakistan after the fall of Taliban as the first local staffer in the reopened embassy. His outreach to imams to discuss religious tolerance and women’s rights under the Koran is achieving measurable results in fighting extremism. Reza helps connect embassy leadership with politicians and thought leaders, supporters and critics, to hear their concerns and ideas.
Working alongside some of the most committed and determined people that Afghanistan and the United States have to offer has deeply enriched the last assignment I will take in the service of my country. It has left me confident about the future of their nation and ours. I have served in a lot of hard places, with a lot of very good people. None has been better than those I have been privileged to call my colleagues here.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

About Town



New Location for Youth Awards Ceremony
The 2012 Youth Awards Ceremony will still be held at the State Department but this year it will be in the George C. Marshall Conference Center.   
If your child/children received an unaccompanied tour medal of recognition in 2012 you should have already received e-mail notification of the July 20th Youth Awards Ceremony.  Even if you did not receive the notification of this year’s event, we hope you will attend if your child already has received a medal of recognition or is eligible to receive one.   To attend this event, please register at http://www.state.gov/m/dghr/flo/c37622.htm.
If you have any questions, please contact 

Deadline to RSVP is close of business Monday, July 16.


The George C. Marshall Conference Center is located in the portion of the Harry S Truman Building known as The Old State at the 21st Street entrance 21st and C Streets, NW.  George C. Marshall was Secretary of State in 1947 when the Department relocated from its historic placement in the Old Executive Building next to the White House to the Foggy Bottom section of Washington, DC.



Today’s words of wisdom from George C. Marshall
Don’t fight the problem, decide it.




Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Mark your Calendars!

It's that time of year again...time for the annual Youth Awards Ceremony held at the State Department!
The midday event held on July 20th honors the Foreign Service Youth Foundation award winners and children with parents serving on an unaccompanied tour.  If your child has ever received an unaccompanied tour award he or she may like to attend this ceremony.   If you are interested please contact us at FLOaskUT@state.gov       ASAP!


Friday, June 22, 2012

Websites and Information


Security Precautions when Traveling with Laptops

The FBI issued the following warning for malware installed on travelers’ laptops through software updates on hotel internet connections:

“Recently, there have been instances of travelers’ laptops being infected with malicious software while using hotel Internet connections.  In these instances, the traveler was attempting to setup the hotel room Internet connection and was presented with a pop-up window notifying the user to update a widely-used software product.  If the user clicked to accept and install the update, malicious software was installed on the laptop.  The pop-up window appeared to be offering a routine update to a legitimate software product for which updates are frequently available.  The FBI recommends that all government, private industry, and academic personnel who travel abroad take extra caution before updating software products on their hotel Internet connection.  Checking the author or digital certificate of any prompted update to see if it corresponds to the software vendor may reveal an attempted attack.  The FBI also recommends that travelers perform software updates on laptops immediately before traveling, and that they download software updates directly from the software vendor’s Web site if updates are necessary while abroad.”

Prohibitions on Usage of Government-Issued Laptops:

·        Downloading Unapproved Software:  All Department laptops must be encrypted with approved Department software, and only ITCCB or CA_CCB approved software can be installed on Department laptops.
·        Downloading Internet Software:  Internet Software must be installed by CA System Administrators from authorized sites.  You may not download internet software to your government laptop without prior approval from the system administrators.

Additional Security Tips:
·        Read Hotel Wi-Fi Directions and avoid connecting to fake hotspots by verifying which network actually belongs to the hotel.
·        Never click on a pop-up window.   Reputable sites should not require a pop-up to work or function.
·        Make sure software updates and security patches are applied on a regular basis and especially prior to a long trip.
·        Make sure Anti-Virus definitions are kept updated.

Additional Laptop travel tips can be found on the IRM Mobile Computing Office website:  http://irm.m.state.sbu/sites/ops/MSO/EML/MC/MCO/Pages/laptops_home.aspx

FBI notices on scams can be found at http://www.fbi.gov/scams-safety/e-scams.

If you have questions or concerns regarding Laptop software updates or security issues, please contact the CA Service Desk (CAServiceDesk@state.gov) or the CA ISSO Security Team (CAISSO-Security-Team@state.gov).


Wednesday, June 20, 2012

About town


AAFSW / FSYF Picnic on Sunday, July 1

AAFSW and the Foreign Service Youth Foundation are co-sponsoring a
community potluck picnic on Sunday afternoon, July 1 from 4:30 - 7:30
PM. We have reserved the picnic area and shelter at Nottoway Park in
Vienna (the same place where FSYF normally holds the fall picnic). All
food and drink will be potluck, and volunteers will lead some fun
activities.

This event is for all Foreign Service employees and family
members -- couples and singles with and without kids.

Email any questions to office@aafsw.org, and please RSVP to the same address --
but if you forget to RSVP, just showing up is fine too. Hope to see you 

AAFSW / FSYF Picnic on Sunday, July 1

AAFSW and the Foreign Service Youth Foundation are co-sponsoring a
community potluck picnic on Sunday afternoon, July 1 from 4:30 - 7:30
PM. We have reserved the picnic area and shelter at Nottoway Park in
Vienna (the same place where FSYF normally holds the fall picnic). All
food and drink will be potluck, and volunteers will lead some fun
activities.

This event is for all Foreign Service employees and family
members -- couples and singles with and without kids.

Email any questions to office@aafsw.org, and please RSVP to the same address --
but if you forget to RSVP, just showing up is fine too. Hope to see you there

Thursday, June 7, 2012

New Specialist in FLO

Welcome Margaret! 
FLO is happy to announce Margaret Bunton has started work as the Unaccompanied Tour Specialist.  Many of you know Margaret from Cairo where she served as CLO.  You will be able to virtually meet Margaret on tomorrow's web chat about EFM employment in Afghanistan, Iraq and Pakistan.  The broadcast starts tomorrow at 8 a.m. so if you are interested in learning more please write FLOaskUT@state.gov for log on instructions. 

Monday, June 4, 2012

If you want to change the world, first try to improve and bring about change within yourself.  That will help change your family.  From there it just gets bigger and bigger.  Everything we do has some effect, some impact.   HHDL


Our little part of the FLO is changing.... Lola has finished her tour as a valuable part of the UT Team and has moved on to the exciting job and life of a Dipomatic Courier.  I already miss her and her insightful input to FLO.  She has done an outstanding job and I'm sure has a great career ahead of her.   
Best of Luck Lola! :)


Sunday, May 20, 2012

If you have a spare 12 minutes...




Watch this inspired, high-paced video discussion on happiness.  You will have a few laughs as positive psychologist Shawn Achor discusses our ability to positively shape our reality and create our own happiness. 

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Happy Mother's Day to all!

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. - Tenneva Jordan

Saturday, May 12, 2012

What are some techniques that help you stay positive?

My friend told me about a great "game" to play whenever you are in a situation that isn't working out the way you want it to.  Ask yourself, "what do I like about this situation"?  Take a moment and really think about it.  Try and find the good in a situation.  For example, I was on a cramped airplane yesterday.  I was tired, and of course, lucky enough to get the middle seat in the last row.  To add to it, I wanted to watch the tv program, but had misplaced my earphones.  Feeling frustrated, I remembered what my friend told me and I asked myself, "what do I like about this situation," and after some thought I realized, "hey, it is pretty cool that I am sitting in a chair, flying, at 40,000 feet in the sky".  It was also pretty cool that since my earphones were missing, I would take the remaining time on the flight and read, something I rarely feel I have the time to do.  I felt better right away.  It didn't take away the fact that I was sitting in the middle seat, but by switching my focus to more positive thoughts, it made it just that little bit better.  So next time, when you are getting hyped up, focusing on the negative, ask yourself that question and you will find it helps you train your mind to think differently, positively.  

Here are some other techniques I pulled from this website:  
  1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.
  2. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
  3. Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.
  4. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.
  5. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.
  6. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
  7. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.
  8. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have quote of the day.
  9. Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.
  10. Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

Friday, May 4, 2012

Ch-ch-ch-ch-Choices

We make choices every day from “do I wear the teal or peacock shirt to dinner” to “low fat or fat free yogurt?” to “should I hit ‘send’?” Remember, the choices you make about how to cope with stress and occupy your time may have a lasting impact on the lives of you and your loved ones. (How to make smart decisions in less than 60 seconds and yes, sometimes it does-and should-take longer)

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Tonight's Happy Hour






Don't forget about tonight's happy hour at Oakwood to discuss unaccompanied tours.  For any questions about the event, call 202-647-3179 or email FLOaskUT@state.gov.

See you there!